分手別再寫「你喜歡大海,我愛過你」了,太俗……

7月31日,闞清子與紀凌塵分手登上熱搜。紀凌塵的回應——「你喜歡大海,我愛過你」,掀起吐槽熱潮。

示愛的時候,情話再土也能打動戀人心。

而分手的時候,話卻不知從何說起。

今天,雙語君(微信ID:Chinadaily_Mobile)就為大家傾情奉獻分手信寫作機經:名家范文,提分詞句,實用技巧,打包拿走不謝!

首先,讓我們賞析幾篇名家范文。

坦言悲痛型

男票另有新歡怎麼辦?1909年,美國女作家伊迪絲·華頓(Edith Wharton)是這樣寫信回應出軌男友的。

I have had a difficult year—but the pain within my pain, the last turn of the screw, has been the impossibility of knowing what you wanted of me, and what you felt for me…

我這一年過得很艱難,但痛中之痛,最後一擊,是無法知道你想要我怎樣,你對我的感覺是什麼……

My life was better before I knew you.That is, for me,the sad conclusion of this sad year.And it is a bitter thing to say to the one being one has ever loved d’amour.

在認識你之前,我過得更好。這是我對這悲傷的一年做出的悲傷結論。要把這句話對一個曾經愛過的人說出口,真是無比苦澀。

伊迪絲·華頓(Edith Wharton, 1862-1937)

深刻哲思型

愛爾蘭著名作家奧斯卡·王爾德(Oscar Wilde)以他深刻犀利的毒舌語錄驚艷於世,後因同性戀情曝光而被捕入獄。

在獄中,他寫下《自深深處》(De Profundis)這封長信,既是寫給他愛恨交織的戀人阿爾弗萊德·道格拉斯(Alfred Douglas),也是對人生的反思。以下是一些節選。

In you Hate was always stronger than Love.

在你的心中,恨總是比愛強烈。

You did not realise that there is no room for both passions in the same soul.

你並未意識到,一個靈魂是無法同時容納這兩種感情的。

Love is fed by the imagination, by which we become wiser than we know, better than we feel, nobler than we are…

愛是用想像力滋養的,這使我們比自己所知的更聰慧,比自我感覺的更良好, 比原本的為人更高尚……

Only what is fine, and finely conceived, can feed Love. But anything will feed Hate.

惟有精美的、精美於思的,才能供養愛。然而,任何東西都可以供養恨。

Love can read the writing on the remotest star, but Hate so blinded you that you could see no further than the narrow, walled-in, and already lust-withered garden of your common desires. Your terrible lack of imagination, the one really fatal defect of your character, was entirely the result of the Hate that lived in you.

愛能讓人讀到寫在最遙遠星辰上的文字;恨卻蒙蔽了你的雙眼,使目光所及,不過是你那個窄狹的、被高牆所圍堵、因放縱而枯萎的傖俗欲念的小園子。你想像力缺乏得可怕,這是你性格上唯一真正致命的缺點,而這完全是你心中的恨所結的果。

You came to me to learnthe Pleasure of Life and the Pleasure of Art. Perhaps I am chosen to teach you something much more wonderful,the meaning of Sorrow, and its beauty.

當初你投向我,是為了領悟生命的歡娛和藝術的歡愉。而也許冥冥中注定,我要教你一些奇妙得多的東西——痛苦的意義,以及它的美好。

奧斯卡·王爾德(Oscar Wilde, 1854-1900)

佛系分手型

英國作家、女權活動家瑪麗·沃爾斯通克拉夫特(Mary Wollstonecraft)遭遇未婚先育,男票出軌,自殺未遂…… 分手寫得這麼佛系,可能是打擊太多太大,看淡一切了吧。

You must do as you please with respect to the child. I could wish that it might be done soon, that my name may be no more mentioned to you…I am glad you are satisfied with your own conduct.

至於孩子,請務必怎麼高興怎麼處理。我希望這件事能盡快解決,我希望我的名字不會再出現在你的生活裡……我很高興你對自己的所作所為感到滿意。

I now solemnly assure you, that this is an eternal farewell.

我鄭重向你保證,這就是永別。

It is strange that, in spite of all you do, something like conviction forces me to believe that you are not what you appear to be.

奇怪的是,盡管你壞事做絕,但卻有一種意念總迫使我相信,你並不是你所表現得那樣。

I part with you in peace.

與你分手,我內心平靜。

瑪麗·沃爾斯通克拉夫特(Mary Wollstonecraft, 1759-1797)

御姐婉拒型

一戰時,海明威在義大利米蘭的醫院遇到護士安格妮馮·庫洛斯基(Agnes von Kurowsky),並瘋狂愛上她,但安格妮年長海明威7歲。

面對癡情於自己的小弟弟,護士小姐姐安格妮是這樣終結姐弟戀的……

Now, after a couple of months away from you, I know that I am still very fond of you, but,it is more as a mother than as a sweetheart.

如今,在與你分別幾個月後,我覺得自己依舊很喜歡你,不過,這更像是媽媽對孩子的喜愛,而非戀人間的情愫。

I am now and always will be too old, and that’s the truth, and I can’t get away from the fact that you’re just a boy – a kid.

我對你來說太老了,現在是這樣,將來也永遠如此,這就是事實。而且我無法回避一點:你只是個男孩,一個孩子。

And I hope and pray that after you thought things out, you’ll be able to forgive me and start a wonderful career and show what a man you really are.

我希望並祈禱,當你想明白後,你會原諒我,你將前程似錦,成為一名真正的男子漢。

1918年,19歲的海明威和26歲的安格妮·庫洛斯基

玩砸後補救型

一句玩笑話,讓亞伯拉罕·林肯(Abraham Lincoln)身陷訂婚風波。

林肯的鄰居伊麗莎白·阿貝爾(Elizabeth Abell)一直想撮合林肯和她的妹妹瑪麗·歐文斯( Mary Owens),後者比林肯有錢。林肯有一次開玩笑說,如果瑪麗願意搬來伊利諾伊州,他就娶她。

誰知瑪麗信以為真,林肯後悔不已,為了有尊嚴地「食言」,他給瑪麗寫了三封長信,把自己慘淡的生活環境描繪了一番,還旁敲側擊,讓她自己做出更明智的決定。

This thing of living in Springfield is rather a dull business after all, at least it is so to me.

在斯普林菲爾德的生活真是無聊透頂,至少對於我是如此。

I am often thinking about what we said of your coming to live at Springfield. I am afraid you would not be satisfied.

關於我們之前說的你搬來斯普林菲爾德住的事,我常常思考。我擔心你會住得不舒心。

You have not been accustomed to hardship, and it may be more severe than you now imagine.

你沒有經受過苦日子,而這兒的生活可能比你想像得還要艱苦得多。

I know you are capable of thinking correctly on any subject, and if you deliberate maturely upon this, before you decide, then I am willing to abide your decision.

我知道你有能力正確思考任何問題,如果你在做決定前,極為成熟地考慮這件事,我會樂意尊重你的決定。

亞伯拉罕·林肯(Abraham Lincoln,1809-1865)

「真心」祝願型

看看德國哲學家尼采(Friedrich Nietzsche)的分手信,把最不中聽的祝福送給前任。

Listen to me when I say thatjust as a bee abandons its flower once pollination is complete, you too must move onward, or go under.

聽我說,正如蜜蜂在授粉後會離開花朵一樣,你必須往前走,繼續走下去。

One day soon you will meet a man, and he will rise like a phoenix from the ashes, andit is my greatest hope that he will not give you syphilis.

很快,你將遇到一個鳳凰涅槃般的男子,而我最大的願望是他不會讓你染上梅毒。

惱羞成怒型

古希臘大哲學家柏拉圖(Plato)果然最愛的還是老師蘇格拉底,連分手信裡都要提到他。

It pains me to admit it, but Socrates was right about you. You are incapable of thinking about anyone but yourself. When was the last time you even came to see me lecture at the Academy?

要承認這點很痛苦,但蘇格拉底說的一點沒錯。你除了自己完全不會考慮別人。你上次來學院聽我的講座是什麼時候?

Ihave been lost in a state of denial for long enough.Now I finally realize that your love is not true. Your beauty is transcendent, yes, butpainfully abstract.Leave me to grapple with the material world.Be gone.

我已經在否定狀態中迷失夠久了。現在,我終於意識到,你的愛是虛假的。你確實擁有非凡的美,但那美是如此令人心痛地抽象。讓我去和現實可感的世界爭鬥吧。你走吧。

看完了上面風格多變,語言優美的范文,雙語君(微信ID:Chinadaily_Mobile)再給大家介紹下「分手信寫作三大要點,教你寫出一封既走心又不拖泥帶水的優質分手信!

1

態度要堅定明確

A break-up should be a clean break with no room for ambiguity. You should be honest from the get-go you want to end the relationship.

分手應當堅決徹底,不能含糊其辭。從你想結束這段關係那刻起,就應該誠實。

get-go:開始、開端

Easing someone into a break-up seems less cruel, but it actually comes off as a mixed message. It can easily be read as uncertainty, making your partner think there’s a chance you might change your mind.

委婉提分手看上去沒那麼殘忍,但其實卻成為含混的信息。看起來很容易給人以不確定的感覺,對方會認為你可能會改變主意。

分手就分手,不拖泥帶水,這樣對雙方都有好處。

2

原因要具體

In a breakup, sharing the reasons you feel the relationship should end conveys you respect your partner and want him or her to have closure.

分手時,說出你認為關係應該結束的原因,既是對對方的尊重,也表達想讓他(她)做個了結的想法。

Even if your partner did something that made you unhappy, avoid name-calling and blaming. Simply state the specific behavior that resulted in incompatibility.

即使對方做了讓你不開心的事,也不要罵髒話,不要厲聲責備,只要說出導致無法繼續走下去的具體事情就好了。

Specific behaviors that were damaging to your relationship are important for your ex to know. He or she can use this information to improve his romantic relationships in the future.

對你前任而言,知道哪些具體行為破壞了你們的感情是很重要的。他(她)可以利用這些信息在今後的感情中做出改變提升。

好吧,具體來說,我就是討厭你上廁所不洗手,幾天不洗頭,工作不上進,生活沒追求,待我不真誠的樣子……

3

語言要友善

While you need to be firm that you’re ending the relationship, there’s no need to be spiteful or aggressive while doing so.

雖然你要堅決地表示想分手,但也不需要寫得怨恨刻薄,咄咄逼人。

spiteful [‘spaɪtfl]:懷恨的,惡意的

End the letter by saying something positive.Letters bind you to your words. In anger or sadness, we often say things we do not truly mean and you do not want you or your ex to carry around physical evidence of a regrettable phrasing or tone.

在結尾寫一些積極的話,書信會讓你受限於文字。在感到生氣或傷心的時候,我們往往說一些言不由衷的話,你也不想讓自己或前任帶著這些將來會讓自己後悔的話語離開吧。

「嘿,我這暴脾氣,就是要讓他(她)難過一輩子!

莫生氣莫生氣,好好分手,好好開始下一段路。

好了,看完雙語君(微信ID:Chinadaily_Mobile)的文章,get到分手信的正確寫法了嗎?

不過,希望你們都不會分手,不用寫分手信。

編輯:左卓 唐曉敏

實習生:宋安康

來源:紐約客、Wikihow

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