你會為身後的路人扶門嗎?這33個有教養的細節,你做到了多少?

不久前,日本足球隊和球迷在世界盃上的表現在各大媒體刷了一波屏。

日本隊在輸球後把更衣室打掃得一塵不染,球迷在比賽結束後在看台撿垃圾,這些行為引來全球媒體和網友的點讚。

國際足聯總幹事詹森斯在推特上傳了一張賽後日本隊更衣室的照片,日本隊還留了一張字條,用俄語寫著「謝謝」。

良好的教養會贏得人們的尊重,這不僅體現在賽場內外,也體現在生活的方方面面。

對服務人員心存感謝;進出大門時,為身後的人扶一下門;不在公共場合高聲喧嘩;懂得控制情緒,不罵髒話;咳嗽、打噴嚏時捂住嘴……

生活工作中注意這些細節,會讓你遇見更好的自己。

– 1 –

Be on time. Always keep to time when honoring a meeting, date or event. Being on time shows your respect for other people’s time.

守時是個好習慣。無論是開會、赴約,遲到都不好,這也是對其他準時到場的人的不尊重。

When you show up late, it says much about your personality and the kind of regard you show important things.

是否守時能反映你的為人,以及你對待重要事務的態度。

– 2 –

In public, it is kind to hold the door open for others, especially when you see someone with arms full or who might have obvious difficulty entering.

在公共場合,遇到帶小孩或手裡拿著東西的路人,幫他們扶下門。

Never allow a door to slam on anyone following you.

勿不管身後人隨意關門或放下門簾。

不過有一點要注意:

Avoid the awkwardness of prematurely holding a door open when someone is a certain distance away. This might cause them to hurry unnecessarily.

身後的人還在較遠的地方時,就別打開門等著了,這會讓別人不得不快步走過來。

– 3 –

Be kind to people who serve you. Always say 「thank you」 to waiters, cashiers and food delivery staff.

對提供服務的人員表示感謝。上菜時的服務生、付款時的收銀員、送外賣的送餐員,向他們說聲謝謝。

– 4 –

Respect the receptionist. It is kind to smile and acknowledge them when they are easily ignored by most people.

對門房、迎賓有禮貌,起碼點頭笑一下,他們往往是最容易被忽視的人。

– 5 –

Be attentive when other people are speaking to you. Keep eye contact, rather than rummaging through your bag or letting your attention drift away.

在同別人談話的時候,保持注意力集中,最好能微笑看著對方的眼睛,而不是翻東西看書報,心不在焉。

– 6 –

Remove your headphones before you speak to someone.

戴著耳機的時候不和別人說話,說話的時候拿掉耳機。

– 7 –

At the end of a phone call with your boss or people older than you, it’s proper to make sure they hang up the phone first.

與長輩或上級通話結束時,等對方先掛斷電話。

– 8 –

Tell people they’re on a speakerphone. Alert the person you’re speaking with that others are present.

如果你用免提,要告知對方他講話別人也能聽到,最好關上門。

– 9 –

Don’t interrupt people when they talk. Hear them out before stating your own opinion.

不隨便打斷別人的談話,先聽完對方的發言,再闡述自己的觀點。

– 10 –

Show respect to other people. Allow them to voice their opinions without argument, even though you may disagree with them. Use your reasoning skills and eloquence rather than raised volume to convince others.

尊重他人的觀點和看法,即使自己不能接受或同意,也不當著他人的面指責對方是「瞎說」、「廢話」、「胡說八道」等,而是陳述己見,分析事物,講清道理。

– 11 –

Do not swear at or insult people, even if you are having an argument.

不說髒話,即使發生爭執也不使用侮辱性詞匯。

– 12 –

Have a big heart — avoid petty feuds with your friends or colleagues.

與人相處胸襟開闊,不會因為一點小事和朋友、同事鬧意見,甚至斷絕來往。

– 13 –

Wait for the green light before you cross the road. Don’t hog the emergency lane, even when you are caught in a traffic jam.

過馬路靜心等待紅綠燈;開車堵的話也不搶占應急車道。

– 14 –

Drive slower in the rain, especially when old people, children or dogs are nearby.

在下雨天開車要減慢車速,車前有老人、小孩、寵物時放慢車速。

– 15 –

When in public, don’t play music or watch videos on your mobile devices with the speakers on.

公共場合,最好不要用手機外放聽歌或看視頻。

– 16 –

When you leave a restaurant or library, don’t forget to put your chair back quietly.

在餐廳或圖書館離開座位時,輕輕把椅子放回原位。

– 17 –

Don’t talk too loud in public, especially at night, when slight noises could be a nuisance to many people.

在公共場所,注意自己說話的聲音有沒有影響到別人。尤其是夜晚,微小的聲響也會影響他人。

– 18 –

Don’t judge people. Respect the fact that everyone is different.

不隨便評論別人,尊重別人的不同。

– 19 –

Don’t show off, even if you are privileged in some way. Stay humble.

在與人交往相處時,不強調個人特殊的一面,即使有資本,也不要有意表現自己的優越感。

– 20 –

Table manners matter. Refrain from smacking your mouth, or poking around the dishes. Don’t waste food.

吃飯不吧唧嘴、不翻菜、不剩米粒。

– 21 –

Cover your mouth with your hand or napkin when coughing, yawning or sneezing.

咳嗽、打哈欠、打噴嚏時捂住嘴巴。

– 22 –

If you’re seated at a table with eight or fewer guests, wait until everyone is served and for the host to begin eating before you dig in.

如果和8個以下的人同桌吃飯,等別人的菜都上齊、主人開吃之後再開動。

– 23 –

Don’t make a big deal of saying you don’t drink. Simply place your fingertips on the rim of the glass and say, 「Not today, thanks.」 This implies no judgment of those who wish to imbibe.

如果不喝酒,就直接說「今天不喝了,謝謝」。不用強調自己不愛喝酒,這樣會讓想喝酒的人尷尬。

– 24 –

If you’re in a situation where you’d excuse yourself to go to the bathroom, you should also excuse yourself before reaching for your phone.

吃飯的時候,去廁所要打聲招呼,那麼玩手機也一樣。用手機之前最好跟對方打個招呼。

– 25 –

Clean up after your dog when taking it for a walk.

帶寵物外出時,及時打掃寵物的糞便,保持地面乾淨。

– 26 –

Keep your dog on a leash, and never say, “I don’t need one, because it doesn’t bite.」

遛狗的時候牽繩,永遠別說「我家狗不咬人,所以不用狗繩。」

– 27 –

Apologize if your dog scares a passerby by barking or running around.

寵物的叫聲或沖撞嚇到路人,作為主人應及時道歉。

– 26 –

When passing scissors or knives to others, be sure not to point the sharp end at them.

遞剪刀、刀子等物品時把尖銳的一邊朝向自己。

– 27 –

Don’t microwave foods that have a peculiar smell.

在公司裡,別用微波爐加熱有異味的食物。

– 28 –

If all you have to say in your email reply is 「Thanks,」 refrain from sending it. You’re just clogging an inbox.

回郵件時別只說一個「謝謝」,而沒有別的信息,這是在給別人製造垃圾郵件。

– 29 –

Take care of children and respect women and your elders at all times.

不論何時何地,對婦女、兒童及上了年紀的老人,總是表示出關心並給予最大的照顧和方便。

– 30 –

When walking on the sidewalk, be sure to give your company the side farthest from the road.

在人行道上靠外側行走,把同伴護在內側。

– 31 –

Be careful with your shopping carts in a supermarket. Do not roll over others’ feet or run into someone, and slow down when passing a child.

去超市推購物車時,不要撞到、蹭到或者壓到別人的腳;經過小朋友的時候要放慢速度,伸手護一下。

– 32 –

When you are on a crowded subway, hold your backpack in front of you to avoid causing inconvenience for other passengers. If you are carrying something cold, hot or sharp, be careful to keep it away from other people’s legs.

地鐵人多時,可以把雙肩包背在前面,避免碰到別人,如果手中提有冰的、熱的或尖銳的物品,注意不要碰到別人的腿。

– 33 –

Let people off the elevator first, and hold the door for others before you board.

讓別人先出電梯,上電梯的時候也應該想到為別人扶住門。

最後,送上科林叔(Colin Firth)在《王牌特工》裡的一句經典語錄:

Manners maketh man.

不知禮,無以立也。

編輯:左卓 唐曉敏 李雪晴

中文參考:人民日報、新華社

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